I am saddened and angered to learn that my favorite Jersey Shore vacation spot, Ocean Grove, NJ, will not allow two of its residents to hold a civil union ceremony at the Boardwalk Pavilion. Because the town is actually a private association, The Ocean Grove Camp Meeting Association, which also happens to be a United Methodist organization, it is claiming to be covered under “Freedom of Religion” to discriminate against a couple wanting to rent the pavilion for a ritual now recognized by the state of New Jersey.Whether or not this discrimination is legal, I am astounded that the association would take such a divisive route. When I first regularly started visiting Ocean Grove in the early 1990s, many of the homes were boarded up and many off the shops were out of business. Thanks in large part to the gay community, Ocean Grove has been rebuilt and has a thriving Main Avenue and real estate market. Is the association so narrow-minded that it will benefit from the contributions of these neighbors, but hide behind the Bible to avoid renting space to them?
While I, of course, support the Constitution without reservation, and I agree that private religious organizations have the right to practice their faith, I am disappointed that Ocean Grove would take the stand that civil unions are contrary to their faith.
As a member of the United Methodist Church, I am fully aware that the issue of same sex marriage is one on which the church does not agree. My United Methodist congregation believes that we are all God’s children and that God wants us to live in love and in community whether that is within a gay or straight relationship. We had considered Ocean Grove an ideal space for our November church retreat. After this weekend, it was an easy decision to rule them out.
It would seem that the Boardwalk Pavilion is the property of a religious organization, and the association has the right to rent space at its discretion. Certainly, their freedom of religion should be protected. They should be aware however that exercising (some might say “abusing”) their religious “right” in this way creates an environment where people like me will not want to participate in their programs. I will no longer spend my time or money on their beach or in their churches. My United Methodist congregation will not visit this United Methodist town because we are offended by their actions. I hope and pray that the Camp Meeting Association will grow in its understanding of community and commitment.
“Whatever some people believe the Bible seems to say about homosexuality, they must not use that belief to deny homosexuals their basic civil rights. To discriminate against sexual or gender minorities is unjust and un-American.” — www.soulforce.org
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